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Jesus vs E.Rabbit

Shadowmat — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 00:53:04 +0000

It’s that time of the year again, Easter. Where millions of little kids will wake up to a trail of chocolate and completely forget the idea that jesus died and came back to life. Granted I’m atheist, for those who believe he whole concept of resurrection is the point to this celebration.

Which gets me to my next thought, Who the fuck thought that the best way to celebrate this was to make up the idea of some chocolate shitting rabbit…. Like really. I don’t think it was a coincidence that those chocolate balls and the shit that comes out of rabbits ass has the only difference of foil.

If anything this is some cheap mechanism to keep the religion alive. Because if all the kids had to sit around that day reading bible passages I think they would denounce Christianity by the age of 5. Same damn deal with xmas “Jesus was born son, so heres a toy M16 and a Playstation 3”.

I hope everyone has something fun planned and they enjoy their vacation.

-God is right where he wants to be, on our money

Rant – Work selection

Shadowmat — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 13:25:39 +0000

I am back with another piece of journalistic gold… Not really just a rant about the shitty job selection around here.

If you don’t want to work for a grocery store or one of the dozen fast food places we have, you’re up shit creek. Everyone already holds those jobs, and the economy itself is fucken poor. I mean when you have people going to a yard sale trying to bargain on a 10cent item… shiiit… You couldn’t even whore yourself out on the corner and make a living, at the end of the day you would have 2 dollars, food stamps and herpes… Not really a winning situation.

And when you finally do get a job you have to put up with all this workplace drama, and the stupidity of your co-workers. Yes I know you don’t like this job… YOU SPENT ALL FUCKEN DAY BITCHING ABOUT IT TO ME. Some people also think that because they started working 1 week before you, they outrank you, and they basically feel they should order you around… that’s basically inviting me to shove my foot up your ass.

If you work at a place you actually enjoy I say great, it don’t happen often. Hopefully for everyone else including myself we can move on soon.

“LETS BURN THIS MOTHER FUCKER DOWN” – That black guy from Harold and Kumar who worked at that burger place

Love through the ages

Shadowmat — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 03:09:40 +0000

Love, one of the greatest feelings in the human spectrum of emotion. Hard to define, yet so much easier to experience. Present in a multitude of contexts, philosophers, religion and humans have tried to explain the concept for thousands of years, yet all they succeeded in doing was to elaborate further on the idea, never reaching firm ground to which a proper universal definition could be formulated. I will try to explore multiple facets of the emotion and possibly impress some stripers to hopefully get a free lap dance.

According to Sternberg and his triangular theory of love, the three main components of the feeling are:

Intimacy: feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness
Passion: romance, physical attraction, and sexual consummation
Commitment: In the short term, the decision that one loves another, and in the long term, the commitment to maintain that love.

On their own or combined they are said to express different kinds of love as seen in the image below.

For more information on these different forms of love please refer yourself to Wikipedia

Sternberg makes a valid coherent argument seeing that everyone can relate personal experience to at least one of the concepts. As you might have noticed, only the types of love are explained, and not the actions or events needed for the feeling to occur. Although an attempt at a social definition has been made and can be found in the dictionary, how people conceive this feeling will differ from person to person. Some people may perceive love solely based on material objects, while others need a strong emotional bond. There are hundreds of other factors and variations, and each individual’s interpretation is unique.

This means that as we grow older, our understanding of love will grow with us as we learn from our experiences, whether they come from a book, past relationships or others our idea of love will evolve. This may mean we will require more from a person to be able to feel the emotion, that we will be able to have healthier longer relationships and maybe just become a better person overall.

Regardless of what is needed for the emotion to be felt, many of the results are the same. A warmth, butterflies in the stomach, a strong bond, trust, companionship, and the list goes on. This is the same for every other emotion, which is truly one aspect of its beauty.

This maintains the idea that emotions and feelings can be experienced at any age, even love. As a 3 year old may interpret love through hugs and candy a 14 year old girl may see love in her first kiss. Who is anyone to say that it isn’t, although what she considers as love may not apply to you, it is true to herself because this is what she comprehends as love. We are only capable of loving as much as we understand it, which would also explain that as we get older, the longer and healthier the relationships tend to be (but not always the case), because our standards and comprehension has also grown. So respect others feelings, and do your best to try and understand why they feel this way. Simply because you do not share the same vu doesn’t mean the feeling has no value or is non-existent. So the next time someone shares their feelings with you, take that into consideration.

“Love feels no burden, thinks nothing of trouble, attempts what is above its strength, pleads no excuse of impossibility; for it thinks all things lawful for itself, and all things possible.” - Thomas à Kempis

Social Masks – We all project them

Shadowmat — Tue, 27 Jun 2006 19:55:53 +0000

In our daily life we encounter hundreds if not thousands of people depending on the current activity we’re undertaking. And to all of them we project a different image of ourselves, to our friends, our family, our neighbors, our teachers; and to others.

We do this in hopes of being accepted by our pears, enough so that we are willing to change ourselves completely for it. So in terms we project a different persona; one that we find others will take a liking to in order to be included within the group. We say things we normally wouldn’t, we act in a different manner, and our choices and preferences often change to suite those of others. The act of conformity is all too common with members of society these days. Most people young and old practice it because acceptance is a prime objective in life no matter what age.

Therefore we lead a false life. We become the persona which we project so much we lose touch with ourselves. And often find ourselves questioning who we truly are. The matter that standards are set and you can either conform to them or fall behind is quite sad. Primarily because everyone wants to lead their own life, not being afraid to hide themselves from others and doing what they want to, but in the meantime if an individual would put that into practice, all the others would shun them for it, a true act of hypocrisy.

Herbert Kelman identified three types of conformity:

Compliance: The act of conforming while in a public setting but keeping ones personal
views and opinions to themselves.
Identification: To conform while in the group both publicly and privately but not after leaving it.
Internalization: To conforme to the group both publicly and privatly, this continues on after leaving the group.

Chances are you will be able to identify yourself with one of the characteristics above. Most people I notice practice the act of Identification, while others, like myself, tend to practice Compliance. I find Internalization is most common in groups where the parents didn’t have an active role in the child’s life. Therefore they choose conform to the group as it is their only form of family. Throughout the years it will be the only thing they will know and will continue to live out their life in that fashion, although this isn’t always the case.

Stress, Anger, Depression, Sadness can all derive from the fact that the person is forced to conform. Although they are maybe surrounded with friends, they are unable to truly identify themselves with any one of them. As this goes on people may begin feeling a deepened sense that they are alone and are unable to change that fact. It can greatly affect their level of morality, sense of self, level of productivity, mood, self confidence and other multiple factors.

In conclusion, the persona’s we project act as a safety net. So that can protect what is truly valuable, ourselves. We show our true side to only a select few. Seeing as we are emotional beings we do not wish to get hurt. That’s why some keep there emotions inside. So they won’t be judged and possibly ridiculed for them. All of this could change, if people began to grow up and accept others for who they really are. Whether or not you agree with their decisions simply respect them for it because we can all make a difference.